How to Use Your Anger

 Jonah 3:1-5, 10-4:10

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Pastor Dave Schneider

 

I.                    

I.                   Anyone who thinks God calls only good people knows nothing about Jonah!

A.                 Jonah is a story about an angry prophet, about a God who uses Jonah’s anger to bring salvation to a whole city.

1.                  God allows Jonah to make his own choices,  to be what he wants to be.

2.                  You will discover that Jonah is a man much like Job,

a.                  The people around Jonah are constantly calling out to God, and Jonah like Job only does so at the end.

b.                  Jonah and Job are surrounded by disaster, and the reader has to wrestle with the question about suffering and why God allows it.

c.                  God continually confronts Jonah with questions, and Jonah must answer and make decisions about the direction his life will take.

d.                  The one thing that separate these two men is that Job, though he curses the day he was born,  never gives in to anger.

 

B.                  This short story is a fascinating psychological study of anger.

1.                  God never tells Jonah he should not get angry.

a.                  God does not say, “When you calm down, Jonah, then I will be glad to listen to you.”

2.                  Both God and Jonah get angry in this story,

a.                  We are told, “their nostrils burned like fire,” yet each uses anger in a very different way. 

b.                  Jonah remains angry to the end, his situation is left open-ended.

c.                  But God’s anger is short-lived; we are told he “repents of his fierce anger” in order to do good.

3.                  Job claims that God “does great things beyond understanding” but “will not turn back from his anger (ch. 9).

a.                  That is not the case here.

 

C.                 Are you surprised to learn that our Bible actually says it is OK to be angry?

1.                  Maybe you have heard of Jonathan Edwards’ fire and brimstone sermon of 1741, “Sinners in the Hand of an Angry God,” (Enfield, Connecticut).

a.                  Edwards believed, "There is nothing that keeps wicked men, at any moment, out of hell, but the mere pleasure of God."

2.                  Paul talks to the Christians of Ephesus about the controlled use of anger, quoting from the Psalms:

a.                  Be angry, but do not sin” ( 5.26)

b.                  “Do not let the sun go down on your anger” (4.26).

3.                  James 1.19 cautions us to be careful with our intense emotions:

a.                  to be “quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger,”

b.                  because “it does not contribute to righteousness.”

4.                  Thursday morning, while I was trying to write this sermon, the large master copier in the secretary’s office was being uncooperative, our internet server had suddenly changed,  and there were all the people coming in to the quilter’s meeting–with the front door banging every 2 minutes, were driving me nuts!  But I said to myself, first off: I am not getting upset. then: I am not getting mad, then: I am not getting angry!  I have a hard time getting started on sermon-writing on Thursdays, but once I get to it, I like to focus intensely and do not like to be interrupted.

 

D.                ANGER is “an emotion common to all people and (it is)very much a part of our lives,” says Dr. Theodore Isaac Rubin in his publication, “The Angry Book,” written 40 years ago.

 

1.                  Dr. Rubin is a former president of the American Institute of Psychoanalysis

2.                  Anger is descriptive of both God and Jesus, and many of the prophets.

3.                  It is a compound emotion, which as we see in the story of Jonah can lead to either creativity or to destruction.

4.                  When someone gets angry and allows it to control her, it is an indication of some far-deeper emotions and issues.

5.                  This can then lead to more serious expressions:

a.                  violence, outbursts of power, suicide.

b.                  If repressed, it will suddenly show up much later more explosive.

6.                  Some questions which the author of Jonah poses, and with which God confronts the prophet are,

a.                  how will you handle it?

b.                  how will you release it so it brings about good?

c.                  how will you talk it over?

d.                  how will you move ahead?

e.                  how will you pray about it?

7.                  Jonah, then, becomes a textbook for how NOT to deal with anger.

 

II.                 In this story, ask yourself: How does Jonah use his anger? Then, ask yourself, How does God want Jonah to use his temper–his violent emotion–in a different way?       

A.                 First, look at what happens when he finds himself swallowed up by a fish.

1.                  While sitting in the belly of the fish, he has time to think over the events of the past week: running away from God, the storm, getting thrown overboard. This guy has plenty of ammunition to make him mad.

a.                  How then does he express that in his prayer to God:

2.                  What he sees all around him is evil, but God has instead chosen to punish him!

3.                  He rebukes God,

a.                  self-righteously he justifies his own actions;

b.                  he wants God to give him revenge.

 

B.                   Jonah prays in the same way after he is spit up on the beach.

1.                  This is the same pattern of prayer we see in some of the psalms.

a.                  except you and I often disguise our demand for retribution in pious words, so that we cannot see our hostility, our aggression  in it:

b.                  God, do this for your sake, your own honor.

c.                  Lord, I know deliverance belongs to you alone; you delivered me,

d.                  now let evil reap its just reward among those “who pay regard to vain idols (and) forsake their true loyalty

(1)              [words from Jonah’s own mouth].

2.                  At whom should my prayer in times of anger be directed?

a.                  Only at myself and my own actions, no one else.

b.                  “Lord, forgive me; help me to look at what I have become.  Lord, deliver me from myself.”                 

c.                  But that is so hard to do all by myself. Remember,  Jonah was on his own.  That is the only way he operated.

d.                  I guess no one wanted to be around him. not even the plant!

 


 

C.                 In the third incident, Jonah repented–or he went through the pretense of repenting.  He preached to the Ninevites, covering the whole city.  

1.                  Then he sat down and got disgusted once again.  Why? “‘Because I knew that you are a gracious God and merciful, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love.’”                   

2.                  This man of God was outraged because God repented of anger and chose to be forgiving instead.


 

a.                  “Steadfast love”– Yahweh’s KHESED, God’s unique all-encompassing love that has no room for the kind of anger that wants to get even

(1)               just wants to punish,

(2)              wants to exclude at all costs!

 

III.              Here now is the turning point of the story: God uses anger for a creative, loving purpose.

A.                 God uses anger to save lives; on the other side, Jonah wants to die.

1.                  God “turns back from the evil God had planned,” while Jonah cannot.

a.                  The Hebrew word for “repent,” NAKAM, means “ compassion.”

2.                  What does it mean to say, God repents?

a.                  God is in control of his emotions. God is able to turn back.

b.                  Jonah is out of control.

3.                  So God for a third time confronts Jonah: “‘Do you well to be angry?’”

a.                  Are you so angry that you let it take over your whole life?

4.                  Do you know Christians or church members who have suffered an injustice or misfortune, maybe beyond their control, and they have allowed it literally consume them.  They might as well be dead, just like Jonah.

a.                  Several people have asked us to remove their names from the church’s roll because the church will not take a strong stand on certain issues.

b.                  They are angry Christians!

5.                  There are abusive husbands who are ordered by the court to take anger management classes.

a.                  Statistics say, the majority of these will fail,

b.                  Why? In Biblical terms, they have fallen too far from grace.

6.                  Many young people who have fallen into the cracks by our educational system, who are lost by the time they reach high school or college...I saw them in court when I went to pay my ticket in November: drug addicts, repeat offenders, outstanding warrants, failures in providing family support

a.                  They are each from Ninevah, just like Jonah.

b.                  “Do you do well to be angry?” God asks each one of them.

(1)              Maybe Jonah was one of those, not even 30 years old yet.

7.                  There is in this book an “inevitable connection between suffering and egotism,” says one commentator.

a.                  How you handle your suffering affects whether you will get upset or unnerved.  How you handle your emotions affects how soon you will move beyond your suffering, turn your suffering into a blessing.

 

B.                  Throughout this book, the protagonists repeatedly call on God: the sailors, the king and people of Ninevah.

1.                  Everyone, except Jonah, calls upon God, for salvation, to be saved from themselves and their evil, maybe to bring joy back into their lives.

2.                  They call out of the “fear” of God –the Bible calls this “wisdom.”

a.                   Jonah calls to God out of a different kind of “fear.”                 

3.                  Dr. Rubin says: one of the first lines of defense or repentance in handling our own anger is prayer, honest prayer.

a.                  But I doubt that you or I can do it on our own. 

b.                  If you have an issue with emotions getting out of control, come to our healing service at 9:00 a.m., the first Sunday of the month.


 

Come and pray to be touched, pray for wholeness, pray for forgiveness. You will not be alone, others will lift you up and pray for you. We will anoint you with the healing mercy of Christ himself.

                                                                  

C.                 A fourth episode of anger takes place under this plant that God caused to grow and gives Jonah shade for only a day.

1.                  The plant’s demise is possibly a commenary about the arbitariness of human life, as the 90th Psalm declares,

2.       the grass is renewed in the morning;  
in the morning it  flourishes;                                                                                
in the evening it fades and withers...                                                                  
So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.

3.                  The sun attacks the plant and burns it, the same effect Jonah’s fiery temper has on him.

a.                  The worm here represents a weak and despicable person.

b.                  His bad attitude is like a worm deep within which eats at him.

4.                  Jonah is the son of Amittai.  That is a pun, “Amittai” means Truth or Belief.

a.                  The calling of the son of Truth causes a whole city to believe, but he cannot see the truth.

 

IV.               And so the story ends with a question.  Jonah must write the final chapter. How will he choose?  How would you end this story?  from your own experience of how God healed your anger with his compassion and mercy...

A.                 You have the power over your own life.

1.                  Power is a gift from God, to be used for good or bad, to serve others or to control them, to be assertive or to cave in.

2.                  It is no different from anger.

a.                  A parable declares, “Live to love and you love to live. Live to hate and you hate living.”

3.                  Why was Jonah unable to be joyful for the Ninevites

4.                  Bill Hybels, in his book “Descending Into Greatness,” writes that joy in the Bible is not defensive; Christian joy goes on the offensive. It gets involved in the lives of others, it breaks down barriers. Instead of hiding in safe corners (like on a ship or under a plant), Hybels says “we run toward life at full speed, embracing whatever it offers”


 

a)                 I would like to see us do that in this church.

 

B.                  This is much more than a short story about an angry prophet, or a primer of how not to use anger.

1.                  More than a stereotype of disobedience and self-righteousness,

a)                 More than a story filled with humor and wit,

b)                 More than a satire on phony, empty religion.

2.                  Much deeper than all that, it is a story of God’s infinite pity, of divine “eyes overflowing (with) tears,”

a)                 a story of God’s unbelievable love which is so far beyond us,

b)                 and how wide that gap is between God and where we are.

c)                 A timeless story like the story of Ruth.

3.                  When Jesus said that “‘no sign will be given to this generation except the sign of Jonah,’” what do you think he meant?

a)                 It is not just the sign of preaching a resurrection from the dead, rising from the belly of the fish after 3 days, which brings the gift of deliverance for the wretched of the earth;

but a warning to you and me, a warning we may condemn our generation for our lack of compassion, our refusal to repent!